New Years Sex Resolutions

Why have New Year’s Resolutions?

New Year’s resolutions sometimes get a bad rap. Some dislike the concept and argue because it’s played out it is ineffective.

Some of us (our little group included) like to use the concept as a vehicle for trying new things.

Pushing into our boundaries is essential if we want to improve our lives, achieve a goal, or avoid a problem. Getting our brain to think in new ways is an essential part of letting go of toxic behavior or thought patterns.

Learning how to help your brain jump track from something you don’t want to something you do want is a good practice to develop.

Why have New Year’s Sex Resolution?

Rather than thinking of improving our sex lives as another-job-I-have-to-do why not think of it as an adventure into something else?

Patterns of behavior are essential to achieving anything. If you are not completely satisfied with your sex life, it might be very exciting to think about changing it.

A New Year resolution is a good trigger to get you in touch with a little eustress in order to boost your sex life.

Start your Sex Goals where you are

The best way to change is to begin where you’re at right now.

Work out what you don’t like about your sex life today.

If you are in a relationship, talk to your partner about a sex goal that excites both of you. It might be a small thing, like increasing the number of times you have sex from twice a month to three times a month. Or it might be adding stimulus to your connection that helps you let go of daily stress and adds sex as a relief.

If you are in a relationship and the pair of you do not want a lot of sex for a few months, you might want to make an agreement to do something else for a while to keep your physical connection (like massage or taking baths together) while you take a break from sex.

If you are single and you want more sex in your life, create a masturbation plan that pushes you into new boundaries. Try different types of pornography, use sex toys in new ways. If you want more sex with others, take a sex class, and learn how to be approachable and offer yourself in a way that is appealing to others.

New Year’s Sex Goals

Creating sex goals is more about noticing what’s missing than it is about getting what you want.

Sometimes sex can be a cause of anguish and make us feel guilty or bad about ourselves.

Your new year’s sex resolution might include a journey to self-awareness. Not necessarily what you want physically, but also what you want or don’t want mentally and spiritually.

The joy of fire and sex

Sex is a dynamic, exploding fiery joy. It is a source of great power in your life. Finding out how to harness that power and use it to your advantage is an exciting path to personal expansion and change. The world might be nothing like you think it is. Your sex life might hold all the keys to a new and better world for yourself.

Be bold. Be brave. Be kind. Move forward with your imagination.