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Real relationships come in many forms

Relationships are not always monogamous.

It is a myth that long term monogamous relationships are the only real relationships.

While there are many long-term monogamous couples who are very happy there are many who are not.

These folk may be convinced by a belief system or feel too obliged to consider leaving an unhappy situation.

If you value happiness in a relationship, you should judge the quality of your relationship by how you and your partner feel, not by arbitrary rules set in place by the belief systems of another.

If you and your partner believe with your whole heart that happiness is something you will gain in the next life by remaining unhappy in your relationship in this life, you can‘t impose that on others.

 

Nature doesn’t determine your sexual lifestyle

It doesn’t matter if monogamy occurs in nature or not. Nature is not a superior god-like being that can endorse or unendorsed your sexual predilection.

Monogamy isn’t any more ‘natural’ than open relationships or sleeping around.

An obsession with monogamy’s ‘natural’ basis implies it loses validity if it is not ‘natural.’

Equally, other lifestyles gain no validity by claiming to be ‘natural.’

To go down this path is to twist yourself into a knot of accusations and defenses.

Establish the power of your relationship in the relationship itself.

 

Society tells you monogamy is everything

The long-term monogamous relationship choice is one that is condoned by our current society and therefore many people adopt it who may not be suited to that lifestyle.

For people who are very happy in monogamous relationships, the lifestyle is exactly that. Their happiness feels like a gift and they feel very fortunate to be able to live it.

If your partner wants to sleep around it is honorable to discuss that with you so you have a choice in your lifestyle. You may or may not take that journey with them.

Duplicity is often the problem when monogamy is blamed.

 

There is no need for others to be the same.

This is a crucial identifying factor.

It is only when you doubt your position that you need everyone to agree with you.

Relationships come in many shapes and sizes. Some people love more than one person at the same time, some people like to sleep with several people and not be contained by one, some people prefer to be alone and not be forced to perform their sexual pleasure with another.

All of these forms of sexuality and lifestyle choice are valid and all carry the promise of a joyful fulfilling love life, if they serve the people in them.

 

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Are you monogamous?

What is monogamy?

Monogamy is the pairing of a single member of a species with another single member of a species.

It is a choice made by each of the pair to relegate the other to a sole sexual partner. It can be a radical act of independence.

The science is still out on the natural impulses of sexual attraction and monogamy.

An enormous amount of time and money supporting scientific research has gone into determining if monogamy is natural or unnatural.

The reason for this is manifold.

Some folk take comfort in discovering monogamy is not natural. It helps them deal with feelings of being attracted to humans outside of their relationship.

Some folk want to prove that monogamy is natural and prove that it is not a restrictive ideal imposed on humans who are fighting their true nature.

Some folk seek to indemnify ideological beliefs by ‘proving’ monogamy is either natural or unnatural.

 

Am I monogamous?

This has left many people in a very confused state over their relationship.

How can we crave the intimacy and exclusivity of monogamy while equally desiring another human sexually?

Why do I want both?

Does it mean I am not monogamous?

 

Why do I want to be monogamous?

If you want monogamy from your partner because you can’t bare the thought of them with someone else, you need to question if you are monogamous at all.

It is possible you do not want monogamy, rather you simply want to control your sexual partners.

If you confront the truth of all relationships, that you do not own or control the other person, you are more likely to see if you are monogamous or not.

Both men and women are likely to experience a desire to control the other person they are in a relationship with.

What do I do if I’m non-monogamous?

Cheating on a committed relationship is not non-monogamy. It’s cheating.

If you want to sleep with someone outside your relationship, you need to talk to your mate to arrange this.

If you feel that your world would collapse if you talked to them, then you need to examine why you are energized by the thought of cheating on them.

If you are still wrapped up in confusion on this subject, see a professional health expert.

Remember, relationships come in many forms, and you may find another mate that suits you more.

 

Focus on you for a while

If you are very troubled by cheating within a relationship, perhaps the best thing is to take a bit of time for yourself.

Masturbate to a variety of scenarios. Read a variety of literature. Find out what the alternatives to monogamy are.

Don’t just flirt with someone else and validate it as ‘natural.’ That isn’t about monogamy, that’s about power and using your sexuality to approve this is a waste of your time and could lead to something very destructive.

Casual flirting is far more likely to be due to boredom with your life, emotional emptiness or other personal issues that may be impossible for another person to solve for you.

Before you burn your world down, take the time to look at all these options.

What we do:
Ajax Books publishes delightfully naughty porny books designed to titillate the reader and encourage their sexual activity. Call it porn or erotica, We believe in your right to a delightful stress-relieving orgasm. Our books are here to help.