There is no right or wrong way to masturbate. As long as it doesn’t interfere with other aspects of your sexual life. Masturbation is like anything. Use it in the context of the rest of your life and look after yourself and others.
This still needs to be reinforced in 2020. That we still need to tell each other it’s ok to touch yourself is a strange judgement on self-professed enlightened souls.
But we do need to tell ourselves this.
In fact, masturbation isn’t right nor is wrong. It just is.
Psychology Today describes masturbation permissions this way:
Masturbation is sex
Masturbation is okay
Not masturbating is okay
Masturbation with a partner is sex
Self-pleasure is okay
Masturbation without orgasm is okay
Masturbation with orgasm is okay
Masturbation in and of itself doesn’t take away from sex with a partner
Masturbation can be a way to self-soothe
Masturbation can include sexual fantasies
Masturbation can include no sexual fantasies
Masturbation with a Fleshlight, vibrator, or any sex toy is okay
Masturbating while watching porn and reading erotica is okay
Masturbation can be your entire sex life