We found this neat little article in Healthline on sex and our attitudes within relationships.

We particularly liked the following:

So, despite the hormones and biology of it all, maybe you need something to help deepen the bond.

Here are some ways to get started:

  • Don’t let physical intimacy become an afterthought, a thing you do as time permits. Schedule it. Make a date. Give it top priority.
  • Incorporate affectionate touch throughout the day. Hold hands. Stroke an arm. Hug. Cuddle up. Give each other a massage. Touch doesn’t necessarily have to lead to sex right away. A little anticipation goes a long way.
  • Make eye contact and hold it. Do this often — when you agree, when you disagree, when you share that inside joke, and when life gets overwhelming.
  • Let your guard down. Be emotionally vulnerable and available for each other. Be their person.
  • Kiss. Really kiss. And take your time about it.
  • Communicate your emotions. Say “I love you” if that’s how you feel.
  • What turns you on? Candlelight, sensual music, a long soak in a hot tub? Whatever it is, take the time to set the stage and get in the mood.
  • Communicate your physical desires. Take turns leading each other through what you like.
  • When things get physical, tune in to your senses. Touch, see, hear, smell, and taste with every fiber of your being.
  • Really be there in the moment with this person who wants to be in the moment with you. Let there be nothing else. And by all means, turn off the TV and cell phone during your time together.


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