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Make it Kinky and masturbate together – advice from NYC Health department.

In New York City, a release of guidelines to make our COVID-19 re-emergence safer, has produced some interesting guidelines. They released an official document with some interesting guidelines.

Among the guidelines we’d expect were some that took us by surprise:

  • Make it a little kinky. Be creative with sexual positions and physical barriers, like walls, that allow sexual contact while preventing close face to face contact.
  • Masturbate together. Use physical distance and face coverings to reduce the risk.

Skip kissing and rimming as both could spread the virus:

  • Kissing can easily pass the virus. Avoid kissing anyone who is not part of your small circle of close contacts.
  • Rimming (mouth on anus) might spread the virus. Virus in faeces may enter your mouth and could lead to infection

 

Check out the full paper here.

 

(AJAX Books are not affiliated with NYC department of health in any way, we just thought this was neat.)

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Lifting the Bonk Ban

Just because our image here is straight, doesn’t mean the rules are straight.

In Australia, there is much discussion about how to safely integrate casual sex into a post COVID-19 lockdown society. The basic rules apply, wash your hands, practice general social distancing and don’t hook up if unwell.

The Australian Society for HIV, Viral Hepatitis and Sexual Health Medicine (ASHM) has come on board to issue some guidelines for how to have casual sex as we all re-emerge from our COVID-19 safe spaces.

The guidelines go as far as to suggest:

“Have an encounter that does not involve touching,” is one tip, or have “online encounters” via webcams, apps and texting.

But most people will likely want to get physical. If that’s the case, consider washing or showering beforehand and engaging in “short encounters”.

Given the main transmission method for COVID-19 is through exhaled droplets, the new normal sex advice is to say no to snogging.

“Avoid kissing, saliva exchange, face touching … and positions which involved face-to-face contact.

“Have sex that reduces the amount of contact with bodily secretions, use condoms and dental dams to reduce contact with saliva, semen, vaginal secretions etc,” the ASHM task force memo advised.

Objects shouldn’t be shared that may have bodily fluids on them while sex toys and other surfaces should be cleaned frequently. Wash sheets after sex to give the virus, if it’s there at all, the flick.

For more information, check out the ASHM website here.

(Please note, AJAX Books is not affiliated with ASHM we are just passing on info we read.)

 

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Sexy knowledge!

Its’ true!

Women who have been educated at a tertiary level are far more likely to give and receive oral sex.

At least according to Hilda Hutcherson MD who wrote the book What your Mother never told you about Sex. (find a copy here)

Why might this be? There are many theories, but the most popular one with women argues that an educated woman is more likely to be experimental. Many women feel that understanding their own sexual nature is their responsibility and this belief increases with education. Therefore, It might be the most educated women who are the keenest to try many things and initiate this kind of pleasure.

Food for thought.

 

(We are not affilliated with Dr Hutchersons book or Amazon)

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Why are we so horny right now?

While there is a lot of people in quarantine who are experienced a decreased sex drive, it is impossible to ignore that many people are experiencing an increased sex drive.

The increased sex drive could be a response to repressed fear, a natural biological reaction when presented with the idea of personal extinction, a desire to get creative with life or boredom pure and simple.

Which ever theory you subscribe to its totally fine to feel hornier or less horny. No one should feel ridiculous for experiencing either.

However, if you feel unattractive and therefore not horny, it’s better to do some self esteem work. Life is not normal just now. Being at home is not normal. You may need to get creative with life in order to handle this odd time.

No matter what, be safe, look after yourself and be careful with others.

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Learn Sexy Skills in Lockdown

There are a bunch of cheap courses on Udemy and a few other places. Below is a list of five of our particular favourite courses to get into that will advance your sex drive and keep you in touch with the beautiful side of your physical self.

  1. Lovehoney on You Tube. Sure they sell products. However, they also give out lots of info.
  2. Yoga for intimacy. This is a wonderful idea. We love this.
  3. Learn how to make cocktails. Always something sexy about cocktails.
  4. Learn how to give a massage.
  5. Master the art of Blowjobs. We found the course on Udemy.

 

 

We have no affilliation with any of the above links. We just like them and are spreading the word.

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Improve Sexual Communication

We found this luscious little article from the South China Morning Post by Lisa Tam that came up with the following list compiled by Sarah Tang of Sarasense. It offers a nice little list of possibilities to improve communication for couples.

How to improve sexual communication

  1. Compile a sex bucket list of things you want to try together when lockdown is over
  2. Create a “sexual desire inventory” of things that turn you on and off, then compare notes
  3. Sit opposite each other without touching and gaze into each other’s eyes for 10 minutes uninterrupted
  4. Try syncing your breath with your partner. This meditative Tantric practice focuses your attention on each other and is a powerful intimacy tool
  5. Curate sexy playlists of music that gets you both “in the mood”

 

 

We aren’t affiliated with The South China Post or Sarasense in any way. We just liked the article. We receive no benefit if you click on the link.

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What do sexually satisfied couples do in bed?

I found this wonderful little article on practicing sex therapist Dr. Justin Lehmiller’s blog.

It cites five key differences between couples (hetro-normative it should be noted) who claim to be satisfied in their sex life. These five differences are:

  1. Spend time getting in the mood
  2. Practice sexual communication
  3. Receive oral sex
  4. Be happier with the relationship in general
  5. Engage in more acts of sexual variety.

It’s the last one that sparks an interest.

In his article there is a list of the top variety interests by gender.

Curious?

Check the article out here.

 

We have no affiliation with Dr. Justin Lehmillers blog. We just liked this article.

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Sexy Blueberries

Lush. Moist. Ready.

Blueberries are one of the super foods that energise and super power your sex drive. Its all about the dopamine and the way they stimulate your neurotransmitters. They have a fountain of youth thing going on that does more than attack your wrinkles. Blueberries keep youthful vigor in brain function.

What was that saying about knowing then what you know now?

Blueberries will supercharge mature humans with additional dopamine that reduces with age.

It’s all about the dopamine.

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With your partner in Lockdown, Make sex a priority

There is no better time to spice up your sex life than when in lockdown. For many couples, no distraction of outside interests is good for their sex life. For others being cooped up in the house is makes once crave a bit of ‘me’ time in order to find the other attractive.

Try to work out what you need and take responsibility for it. Tell your partner, work out how to make it happen, and come back to them refreshed when you’ve had some space.

It’s a wonderful time to fulfil a couple of ‘office’ style fantasies. Everyone is joking about not wearing pants. What about having a partner sitting under your desk while you’re online and not wearing pants?

What about buying each other a cocktail at ‘after dinner drinks’ time and having it delivered.

What about buying some fairy lights to make a corner of the backyard sexy for after work drinks?

It doesn’t all have to be about booze, but it does have to be about relaxation.

Just whatever you do, turn your lockdown into a time when you get laid. A lot.